Ryan is presented as a character who is confident in his abilities and lifestyle; …show more content…
Not only does he constantly have to travel, but he also is the catalyst to other individual’s grief and distress. In order to protect himself from the anxiety that is caused by feeling guilt towards these individuals, Ryan has allowed himself to become detached from his own emotions. It is known that Ryan recognizes what he desires when it comes to achievement, but when it comes to his emotional needs, he fails to recognize his desires. For example, it is a desire of his to reach ten million miles, but he cannot respond to Alex when she prompts him to explain what he wants out of their relationship. In correspondence with Ryan’s constant requirement of traveling for his occupation, he most has likely intellectualized his ideology that it is better to wake up with nothing connecting him to a “home” (such as objects and even people) in order to protect himself from experiencing the depression/anxiety that coincides with homesickness or a lack of personal connection. It is also possible that Ryan is utilizing reaction formation as well as intellectualization as a function of his personality. It is shown through Ryan’s relationship with Alex that he may potentially desire a family and home life with someone – as he invites her to his sister’s wedding and shows up at her doorstep. Therefore, his claims that he doesn’t want to be married, have children, and settle down may simply be lies that he tells himself to convince him that the lifestyle he is living is the one that he truly desires. As a result, his personality provides an explanation for his lifestyle, making it ego-syntonic to some degree because it protects him from experiencing distressing