Thanksgiving Family Conflict Essay

Not being in my parent’s situation I cannot fully understand the way in which either one was feeling, it would not be my place to decipher whether their feelings were justifiable or not. As well as I can not say if the circumstances that prevailed were handled to the best of their abilities. Like most individuals, holding on to certain feelings for a person, which we once thought could be the epitome of what society says is our soulmate. It is a justifiable means to the healing process to contain feelings of resentment, remorse, disgruntlement and discontentment for the pathway the relationship ending up taking. It is almost human nature to seek happiness and contentment, we avoid being hurt at all cost. Relationships are meant to be enjoyed …show more content…
She was always available to lend a helping hand, a shoulder to cry on, and she was back you up no matter what situation you got yourself into. She had created somewhat of an unbreakable bond within that side of the family, and with in such a short amount of time it began to change. I believe my mother tried to form coalitions, with my fathers side of the family, however this placed her in what appeared to be a conflict triangle with a few of the family members (Hocker and Wilmot pg. 229, 2104). Theses conflict triangles were formed not primarily because of my mother but rather because of my aunt and cousins would offer hope and aspiration that everything would change and not to give up on my father. With the extent of the insecurities, which my father had left my mom, and the encouragement and optimism that my family gave to her it was burdensome to move on. This gave her hope that someday my father would recuperate and things could be the way they were ten years prior. My mother has lived her life placing other people’s happiness before her own. She is still being hurt with the neglect she is receiving from my father, …show more content…
The circumstances at hand are a difficult one to adjust to, given that this situation did not occur between individuals who had been dating or even individuals who has just been married. Once a family is involved, and there are children it is challenging to allow yourself to simply relinquish every tie or feeling that was attached. It would be simply for my mother to sever the ties and solicitousness from my father and is side of the family, but it is almost unfeasible to achieve when her children are a piece of that family and there are long term relationships with those individuals. For my mother’s side of the family, they are perplexed and bemused by the actions my mother has taken to salvage the relationships that are closely tied to my father. My grandparents have often sat and contemplated why my mother placed herself in situations were she is not the priority and the focal point but rather the coat to be walked upon. My mother needed time away from all the circumstances that are making her conflict with others and most importantly herself much worse.