Most people think about how love used to be before the 21st century. In the book Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari and Eric Klinenberg, a comedian and a sociologist, both compared the modern and the old way of romance. Ansari and Klinenberg explained how the couples back in the 50’s through 90’s would meet and marry right away. People would marry within their neighborhood for example, in the same building of apartment, just couple blocks down from their house or parents would arrange their marriage. The relationship back then were three steps just somewhat similar today, meet each other, meet each other’s family and meet furthermore of each other throughout the marriage. Women or men back then would be satisfy with the marriage within a short time of period of knowing each other and for some women marriage was an escape from their family seeking for freedom. Was there true love one might think? Some couples could say “yes” others can say “no”. The modern world of romance has changed in a way people communicate and have access to each other, but is still the same fundamentally. It is easier for someone to have a enchantment today, because the access has increased to help people have a long distance relationship while using technology. Anseri explains how these changes have developed the modern romance for many people around the world. Within these changes of technology new websites have been created for people to search their other half. And help people narrow their search. For example, “It provides you a seemingly endless supply of people who are single and looking to date. You have tools to filter and find exactly what you are looking for” (87) Ansari said. Technology has changed throughout the years, and it has help us find quicker our other half. However, people back in the 50’s through early 90’s were doing the same, because they were using technology, yet the technology was slower than today. To illustrate, “Then the person quickly described themselves and what they were looking for or in search of (ISO)” (72). Although today people can click faster on narrowing their options, so did the people back then they used brief backgrounds of themselves and people were given the opportunity to choose from smaller numbers of people who are seeking for a fun time or a serious relationship. Therefore, technology has improved in a primary way, but romance has not, so for both periods of time people are getting attached to completely strangers, and marrying without knowing much of each other. In contrast, comparing today to back then people are still getting marry quick and divorcing quicker, but the only difference was women did not own the right for divorce back then. Ansari illustrates many examples of marriages in his book of how before women were stuck to one men. As a reader we deduce, in the group
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Asari talks about the research researchers have found of how the brain works. “In the first stage of a relationship you have passionate love. This is where you and your partner are just going ape shit for each other. Every smile makes your heart flutter. Every night is more magical than the last” (214). The principle of love is what the brain makes it and for some people the first stage in a relationship can be lost in a couple month. Therefore, for the modern romance to change then people should change the way the brain works. Another example, “The second danger point is when passionate love starts wearing off. This is when you start coming down off of that initial high and you start worrying about whether this is really the right person” (217). There is only two stage of the mind and once is worn out couples tend to make a conclusion of the other person not having what they were looking for. No matter if people are from back in the 50’s through 90’s or now the stage two stages of our mind worn out and people should put more effort in seeing ways to be compatible to their partner or finding new ways to keep the spark on instead of going to the easy way out
Asari talks about the research researchers have found of how the brain works. “In the first stage of a relationship you have passionate love. This is where you and your partner are just going ape shit for each other. Every smile makes your heart flutter. Every night is more magical than the last” (214). The principle of love is what the brain makes it and for some people the first stage in a relationship can be lost in a couple month. Therefore, for the modern romance to change then people should change the way the brain works. Another example, “The second danger point is when passionate love starts wearing off. This is when you start coming down off of that initial high and you start worrying about whether this is really the right person” (217). There is only two stage of the mind and once is worn out couples tend to make a conclusion of the other person not having what they were looking for. No matter if people are from back in the 50’s through 90’s or now the stage two stages of our mind worn out and people should put more effort in seeing ways to be compatible to their partner or finding new ways to keep the spark on instead of going to the easy way out