“When you fully trust a person without any doubt, you finally get one of the 2 results: A person for Life or A lesson for Life.”(16quotes 1) Some may think getting a divorce should be an easy option for people who wish to end their marriage. It should be harder for people to get a divorce because adults need to follow thru on their promise, there are multiple negative effects for adults if they choose to divorce, and divorces are psychologically harmful to children.
Adults need to follow through on their promise. Some may think people shouldn’t make promises you can’t keep. The reality is every day in life people make choices and choices make us. When you get married you say your vows and you need to stand by what you say. For example, some …show more content…
Some may think “the ends justify the means,” which means the outcome of the divorce justifies why they chose to separate. However, during the divorce both spouses and sometimes even their families deal with heartache. (Medved 1) “There are things in my life that are hard to reconcile, like divorce. Sometimes it is very difficult to make sense of how it could possibly happen. Laying blame is so easy. I don 't have time for hate or negativity in my life. There 's no room for it.” (Witherspoon 1) In divorce cases it’s easy for one spouse to blame another and you shouldn’t have the time for negativity in life because it would lead to heartache where you will sometimes miss the person until it’s too late. You also have to deal with the financial loss since you’re paying for a lawyer, court date, and all the legal fees. “A good financial plan is a road map that shows us exactly how the choices we make today will affect our future.” (Tobel 1) So if you spend your life savings on a divorce then you will result sometimes in a bad future since the choices will affect the future. In the end, you have split families and what if your parents decide to marry someone else; it’s very hard to blend families together. “My parents split when I was 13. For a youngster, it 's quite devastating. One minute you 're all happy families, and then everything changes.” (Jones 1) Split families are hard on everyone the parents …show more content…
Some may think children on the inside are like a “strong soldier” and they fight through the pain or it doesn’t affect them. The reality is children of divorce parents suffer though a lot. Children become collateral damage. Medved said, “Children, who not ever have a voice in their parents’ separation, become collateral damage and discharged with the questionable saying “kids are tough.” In a divorce they always question what to do with the kids and the children will be forced to live with one of the parents. Children suffer educationally and socially. In June 2011, an inquiry by analyst at the University of Wisconsin-Madison discovers decay in test grades and communal ability for kids whose parents divorce. (ProQuest 4) You make the children choose sides. “After my parents ' divorce when I was 4, I spent weekends with my dad before we finally moved to California. By the time Sunday rolled around, I was incapable of enjoying the day 's activities, of being in the moment, because I was already dreading the inevitable goodbye of Sunday evening.” (Lowe 1) Children have to choose which parent to be with and it’s tough for them because they want it their life back to where they lived happily with both of them and they have to choose for their future. Kids imitate their parents so in their future they deal with undermining love, sexual intimacy and commitment. “Desire is the key to motivation, but its determination and commitment
Adults need to follow through on their promise. Some may think people shouldn’t make promises you can’t keep. The reality is every day in life people make choices and choices make us. When you get married you say your vows and you need to stand by what you say. For example, some …show more content…
Some may think “the ends justify the means,” which means the outcome of the divorce justifies why they chose to separate. However, during the divorce both spouses and sometimes even their families deal with heartache. (Medved 1) “There are things in my life that are hard to reconcile, like divorce. Sometimes it is very difficult to make sense of how it could possibly happen. Laying blame is so easy. I don 't have time for hate or negativity in my life. There 's no room for it.” (Witherspoon 1) In divorce cases it’s easy for one spouse to blame another and you shouldn’t have the time for negativity in life because it would lead to heartache where you will sometimes miss the person until it’s too late. You also have to deal with the financial loss since you’re paying for a lawyer, court date, and all the legal fees. “A good financial plan is a road map that shows us exactly how the choices we make today will affect our future.” (Tobel 1) So if you spend your life savings on a divorce then you will result sometimes in a bad future since the choices will affect the future. In the end, you have split families and what if your parents decide to marry someone else; it’s very hard to blend families together. “My parents split when I was 13. For a youngster, it 's quite devastating. One minute you 're all happy families, and then everything changes.” (Jones 1) Split families are hard on everyone the parents …show more content…
Some may think children on the inside are like a “strong soldier” and they fight through the pain or it doesn’t affect them. The reality is children of divorce parents suffer though a lot. Children become collateral damage. Medved said, “Children, who not ever have a voice in their parents’ separation, become collateral damage and discharged with the questionable saying “kids are tough.” In a divorce they always question what to do with the kids and the children will be forced to live with one of the parents. Children suffer educationally and socially. In June 2011, an inquiry by analyst at the University of Wisconsin-Madison discovers decay in test grades and communal ability for kids whose parents divorce. (ProQuest 4) You make the children choose sides. “After my parents ' divorce when I was 4, I spent weekends with my dad before we finally moved to California. By the time Sunday rolled around, I was incapable of enjoying the day 's activities, of being in the moment, because I was already dreading the inevitable goodbye of Sunday evening.” (Lowe 1) Children have to choose which parent to be with and it’s tough for them because they want it their life back to where they lived happily with both of them and they have to choose for their future. Kids imitate their parents so in their future they deal with undermining love, sexual intimacy and commitment. “Desire is the key to motivation, but its determination and commitment