The Negative Impact Of Divorce

Divorce will mess up the family and forever screw up the children. That 's the stigma that divorce has faced for over decades. Reports, statistics, and data all show how divorce will have negative effects on the children. It 's inevitable that divorce will effect the child 's upbringing, and change the way they can move forward. However, not all change needs to be damaging to the children or parents. Changes on the microsystem, mesosystem, exosystem, and macrosystem level can be made to help children and families who are going through divorce. The microsystem is the beginning level where changes can begin to take place when related to children and divorce. This level is crucial, because it 's where children directly connect with activities and relationships. When children are treated negatively from the divorce this can impact the child greatly. However, parents have the ability to create a less hostile environment when going through the divorce and any circumstances after. The transition can be healthier if the parents choose to put their child 's needs first and focus on the long term effects. The chances of the parent treating the child with more compassion and support will be higher if they create a less aggressive environment. When compassion is demonstrated through the parents to one another, the child will then have the possibility of feeling loved and understood during a difficult circumstance. In most divorce situations children feel misunderstood and at fault. If the parents were able to be compassionate and considerate, the child may take part of the blame off themselves. Children need to feel support and affirmation from those closest to them. In the mesosystem, children are vulnerable to their connections. In this stage children are far more likely to get hurt if their parents and teachers are unsupportive of their endeavors. The damages can extreme if the parents do not work together to promote support and healthy encouragement for a child. In the case of divorce, parents must be more aware of the mesosystem, and work extra hard to show how valued the child is. Parents must lay aside their own personal vendetta, and center the attention on the …show more content…
This model plays a vital role in contributing to children and families being able to cope with divorce. Beliefs and values can contribute heavily to children being able to understand and find hope in what seems like a very difficult circumstance. Individuals can find hope in higher a power, such as God. Many individuals with faith, such as Christianity, are able to find peace in a complicated scenario. Faith can allows families and children to put their burdens elsewhere, and trust they will make it through this lifestyle adjustment. Christianity is just one example of a belief that always people to cope in difficult circumstances. If families maintain faith during the divorce, it may enhance their chances of being able to cope the situation more effectively. It 's vital for families to maintain their beliefs, customs, and values moving forward. The least amount of change that takes place will make the adjustment of the divorce less drastic. If the family has a tradition of going to the movies every Tuesday night, the family should work diligently to uphold this commitment. Even if only one parent attends this ritual, they should continue it for the child 's sake of