What Is The Difference Between Loyalty And Honesty

Do you believe it would be difficult to chose between loyalty and honesty? Ethical decisions are never easy to make, but what if your decision was going to effect those closest to you indefinitely and extensively? My parents got married while my mom was about four months pregnant with me. As far as I can remember, growing up my parents had less than a handful of arguments, they were madly in love, and had a happy marriage. They had my little brother when I was three years old and bought their own home. Everything seemed perfect, that is until I was about 15. My mother started being what I would consider an unsatisfactory parent when I started middle school. She was neglectful, probably borderline abusive and by the time I started high school her neglectfulness spread from not only her relationship with her children but, also to her marriage. As a child/teenager I still loved my mother whole heartedly despite her actions but, my sophomore and junior year of high school I was faced with a series of difficult situations and decisions. Being a teenager I was of course well versed with the internet at the time of these events. My mom was recently introduced to facebook and it was totally consuming her life, she was becoming very self absorbed and acting very strange, even for her. One day I was snooping through my moms facebook unbeknown to her because I hacked her account. As I went through her messages I made a life changing discovery, my mother was having an affair with one of her co-workers. This is something I never expected from my mom, I was heart broken. My whole world stopped, I had no idea how to even process this information let alone know what to do with it. Now I think it is good to introduce my father. My father was always very special to me although we did not have a very good relationship while I was growing up. He was a hard working provider for our home for a long time, and a loving father but, I always had a better …show more content…
Ethically, morally, or otherwise, I decided it was best to tell my father what was going on. This came from council from peers as well as my own moral reasoning. I reasoned with myself that my mother, when she was a good mother, taught me to be an honest person. She may have changed into an unfavorable person but, deep down she would know I made the right decision morally. My decision impacted everyone and to this day, I 'm still not quite confident that I made the right choice. In the end, I told my father whom was devastated. The confrontation with my mother turned into months of constant fighting. My mother practically lost her mind and my dad fell into a deep depression. In the middle of my junior year, my mother left and never came back. As terrible as the end of this story sounds because of my decision, good came out of the situation. My father, my brother, and I became very close. We weathered the storm of my moms betrayal, mental breakdown, and abandonment together. My dad was thankful that I was honest with what I found. Even though my mother and I stopped talking for a long time, she changed for the better after she left as well. I hope individually my decision did more good than bad for each member of my