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Rubin. If the individual reveals their feelings to the one they love whether it is through physical contact, eye contact, or verbally, it usually draws the person to feel the same towards the other. However, there are those few reward that by not being liked from the person they are drawn to. This is called unrequited love, the individuals become even more attracted to the person because they like the challenge of trying to receive those feelings in return (Devault 135). As an example, Shakespeare for a visual of the appealing. In A Midsummer Night's Dream, Helena, the best friend of Hermia, is frustrated and depressed because the man that she loves, and who once loved her, left her for the beauty of Hermia. Helena's self esteem lowers, and she begins to stalk her lover Demetrius: Demetrius: Do I entice you? Do I speak you fair? Or rather do I not in plainest truth Tell you I do not, nor cannot love you? Helena: And even for that do I love you the more I am your spaniel, and, Demtrius, The more you beat me I will fawn on you. Use me but at your spaniel: spurn me, strike me, Neglect me, lose me; only give me leave (Unworthy as I am) to follow you. What worser place can I beg in your love (And yet a place of high respect with me) Than to be used as you use your dog? (Shakespeare 2.1. 199-210) Usually one gets the point when the one they love does not feel the same way about them. Helena obviously got the point but she was appealed to the fact that Demetrius neglected her love. Helena was up for the challenge and stuck to it. Once two individuals love one another they usually form an intimate relationship that is called commitment. They commit to each other. However, it is possible to love someone without being committed, and it's also probable to be committed with a person without loving him/her. Although, there is no an exact definition for "love" and some speculate whether or not it is actually possible to define love (Fehr as qtd. in Devault 125). Therefore, instead of looking for definitions of love and commitment researchers advise humans to observe peoples prototypes that they use to define the level of their relationship. Prototypes are a original type, form, or instance serving as a basis or standard for later stages (Dictionary). Researcher Beverly Fehr asked a total of 172 individuals to state main features of love: trust, caring, honesty, friendship, respect, loyalty, commitment, supportiveness, wanting to be with the other, and interest in the other. The eleven major characteristics of commitment: loyalty, responsibility, keeping their word, faithfulness, trust, emotional support, devotion, reliability, perseverance, and concern about well being (Devault 128). Characteristics of love such as daydreaming about the other all day long are considered to be less serious if changed than central features such as loss of trust, caring ness, and honesty, are lost. If
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Hence, get thee gone, and follow me no more.
Helena: You draw me, you hard-hearted adamant!
But yet you draw not iron, for my heart
Is true steel. Leave you your power to draw,
And I shall have no power to follow you.( Shakespeare 2.1. 188-196) In this case, Helena's experience is the Cyrano Style. Helena is not concerned about Demetrius not loving her, she cares about just having him in her life as her mate. She is satisfied having him in her life even if it he treats her wrong. This document consists of the obstacles a relationship goes through. By using A Midsummer Night's Dream, the situations in the book are used to demonstrate the obstacles and aspects of love. Such as the styles of love, the attitudes associated with love, the values one bases their relationships on, romantic love, and unrequited love. One should care about these phases to understand love better. To observe human beings and decide whether they are what they look for in a lover or not. An individual can learn a lot about themselves, whether it is their flaws or what type of lover they are. Therefore, that is what this document is about to research certain types of aspects of love and put them into real life
Hence, get thee gone, and follow me no more.
Helena: You draw me, you hard-hearted adamant!
But yet you draw not iron, for my heart
Is true steel. Leave you your power to draw,
And I shall have no power to follow you.( Shakespeare 2.1. 188-196) In this case, Helena's experience is the Cyrano Style. Helena is not concerned about Demetrius not loving her, she cares about just having him in her life as her mate. She is satisfied having him in her life even if it he treats her wrong. This document consists of the obstacles a relationship goes through. By using A Midsummer Night's Dream, the situations in the book are used to demonstrate the obstacles and aspects of love. Such as the styles of love, the attitudes associated with love, the values one bases their relationships on, romantic love, and unrequited love. One should care about these phases to understand love better. To observe human beings and decide whether they are what they look for in a lover or not. An individual can learn a lot about themselves, whether it is their flaws or what type of lover they are. Therefore, that is what this document is about to research certain types of aspects of love and put them into real life