The Importance Of Becoming A Man In The Kite Runner

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Becoming A Man In The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini, Baba is trying to teach Amir one thing, how to be a man. Amir struggles to replicate what Baba models for Amir his whole life. Amir is constantly looking for “The Trophy”, at one point thinking that the kite would be the thing to bring him and Baba closer. What he does not realize is Baba had been handing him the key to the greatest trophy of all, the title of “man”. “A boy who won’t stand up for himself becomes a man who can’t stand up to anything”(22). Baba tries to teach Amir how to stand up for himself and others his whole childhood, but it is not until Amir migrates to America that he takes those examples and applies them to his own life, maturing himself into a man. Amir never stands up for himself in his youth. He always uses others to execute his dirty deeds for him. Consequently, …show more content…
In America, Amir doesn’t have Hassan anymore. Although he does not necessarily have a bully, such as Assef, he still has to learn how to defend his beliefs. The main course of action that Amir needs to decide on is his education. Amir yearns to be a creative writer. He always had felt that writing made him feel “like a man who discovers buried treasure in his own backyard”(30). Although Baba does not agree with this, Amir concludes that, “I didn’t want to sacrifice for Baba anymore. The last time I had done that , I had damned myself.”(134). He obtains a trophy that no one can steal from him, an education. He also secures the prize of Soraya. There are laafs around her, a sort of taboo, but Amir does not care. When Baba asks if he is sure about it, Amir is “more sure than I 've ever been about anything”(161). Amir safeguards his job, and his chosen lady in America, comparable to when Baba had opposed others by becoming a businessman and marrying Sofia in Afghanistan. Amir stands up for himself, his beliefs, and in this, becomes a

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