In the beginning of Roberta M. Gilberts textbook Extraordinary Relationships: A New Way of Thinking About Human Interactions (1992), she argues “In the realm of the purely personal - after food, water, and shelter - the quality of relationships most often determines the quality of life” (p. 3). I believe this statement perfectly sums up how vital and necessary human relationships are for human life, and the strong impact they play on having a positive and meaningful life. There were several concepts presented throughout chapters 1 - 12. They were each of equal importance and each greatly impacts the understanding of relationships. In order to have a purposeful life and a greater understanding of relationships, there are many crucial concepts that must be understood, three of them are differentiation of self, thinking systems, and the relationship pattern of cutoff.…
Ordinary People is a 1980 film about Conrad and his family. Their family lost the eldest son in a boating accident and their relationship with each other becomes strained after Conrad attempts suicide. The relationship between Conrad and his mother is distant and disconnected. The relationship between Conrad and his father is more open in comparison. After Conrad returns home from the hospital he starts therapy with Dr. Berger.…
Lit a Memoir In the following paragraphs I will provide with a brief review of Lit a Memoir by Mary karr. Lit depicts Mary’s life growing up to be a mother, wife and her issues with drug use. She struggles with drinking and it took a toll in her family and more specifically her marriage.…
This section of text from Marya Hornbacher’s 1998 memoir, Wasted: A Memoir of Anorexia and Bulimia, is a first-hand account of her experiences with eating disorders throughout her life. This depiction of her on-going battle with anorexia and bulimia for over fourteen years establishes her familiarity with the topic while appealing to the emotions of the audience as they experience the perspective of a person who has struggled with negative body image, eating disorders, and insecurity. Furthermore, by detailing some of her own experiences—many of which from when she was a child—without establishing a definitive opinion on the implications of negative body image, Hornbacher allows the reader to arrive to their own conclusions about the real-life dangers of the over-glamourized standard for the “perfect” body and the addictiveness of the quest for thinness. Hornbacher’s memoir was originally published nearly two decades ago, illustrating her experiences with eating disorders through the age of twenty-three; however, the content of her book is just as…
Knowing when something is wrong, is different than, accepting when something is wrong, and that is exactly what was happening in "Unbroken" by Laura Hillenbrand. The three main characters, Louie, Mac, and Phil, are struggling against not only survival, because Louie's plane crashed into the Pacific Ocean, but also being aware that they are in a crisis. Awareness as said in "What is Resilience" by Kendra Cherry is "when resilient people are aware of the situation, their own emotional reactions and the behavior of those around them", and being aware that they are in trouble is very difficult for Mac, and Phil, because they do not want to accept that they are in need of help. Louie is aware that he has to do everything in his power to help Mac…
No Apparent Distress is the coming-of-age story of Rachel Pearson as she navigates through her unexpected journey of coming to be a doctor. Originally Pearson planned on becoming a writer; however, in the summer of her last year of college, Pearson takes up a job at an abortion clinic. Little did she know that the stories of the women she would counsel would inspire her to become a medical professional. Through years of medical education and training, Pearson learns that there is more to being a doctor than she had ever imagined. Dr. Rachel Pearson grew to become the doctor she is today not only through education, but also through her relationships with her family, peers, and patients.…
The summer of the year Conrad attempted suicide, Jordan drowned in a sailing accident on the lake. This heavily impacts him since he lost his best friend and brother. Conrad isolates himself from his friends as he grieves the loss of Buck. Conrad was not just hurt from the loss of his brother, but he also felt in a way blamed for his death, since he was there during the accident. His depression originated from the loss of his brother and this is a big influence on Con’s decision to try to kill himself.…
In the discombobulation of day to day life, all types of people are going to try to knock you down. This hardship was experienced personally by Brenda Roza as she realized that “there may not be that person next to you that's going to speak up for you”. There is no reason for strangers being malicious, to try to knock other people down when they’re not even known to you. Regardless, it is imperative that you are able to defend yourself- just as Brenda Roza did. Having been told throughout her entire life that she couldn’t do certain things, Brenda thought that that being a successful person might be beyond reach to her - impossible.…
Ordinary People: The Importance of Communication Judith Guest displays many important life lessons in her novel Ordinary People, which can be guide everyone in difficult situations. Ordinary People is a meritorious novel, devoted to teaching common people how to fight through the hardships of life. The main characters, Conrad and Calvin Jarrett, are the epitome of a teen-parent relationship, albeit attempting to cope with two traumatic events. Before the book begins, Buck, the older of the two Jarrett brothers, dies in a boating accident. Conrad, flush with survivor’s guilt, unsuccessfully attempts suicide.…
Susan Wolf’s argument that a meaningful life is one that is actively and at least somewhat successfully engaged in a project (or projects) of positive value is developed through a philosophical distinction between the perception of what is meaning of life and what constitutes as a meaningful life (797). Wolf classifies a meaningful life as one of positive value and active engagement, not to be confused with subjective criteria like personal happiness or contentment. The author distinguishes a meaningful life by elaborating on what she qualifies as a meaningless life. Wolf first characterizes a meaningless life as a life of “hazy passivity” (796). Individuals who are categorized into this bracket often indulged themselves in deeds that contribute…
While at first glance the characters, settings, and difficulties faced in Judith Guest’s Ordinary People seem mundane and commonplace, the novel’s subtext, about a psychological battle against the self, transforms this “ordinary” WASP family into an extraordinary family in despair. Conrad, the protagonist, and son of Beth and Calvin, returns from the hospital and prepares for his first day of school since his suicide attempt, which was fueled by his immense guilt over the death of his brother, Buck. While preparing breakfast for everyone, Beth comments on Conrad's clothes, stating to Calvin, “Decency is out, chaos is in”. This quote illustrates the terribile relationship between Beth and Conrad, while additionally foreshadowing Conrad’s…
It seems as though the majority of Conrad’s unhappiness that does not stem from Buck’s death comes from the behavior of his mother. Conrad is also consumed with the thoughts of his suicide attempt. Conrad at one point says to his therapist, Dr. Burger that he feels that his mother hates him for his suicide attempt, as she redid the entire bathroom to get rid of all the blood. Conrad has difficulty forgiving himself for attempting suicide because he hurt his family after they had already been hurt by Buck’s…
In her novel, Trauma and Recovery, Judith Herman discusses the concept of Complex Trauma Disorder and its implications. Intolerant of the currently defined diagnosis for post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), she decides to rename it. Herman believes that the existing definition for PTSD is inaccurate, or as she asserts “does not fit accurately enough” (119). The present criteria for this diagnosis results from those who have survived “circumscribed” traumatic events, which includes rape, disaster, and combat. These are simply archetypes.…
In The Psychic Life of Power: Theories in Subjection, Judith Butler takes a neutral stance to discuss the topic of how the power a subordinated subject holds is contradictory. As a society, a subject does not instinctively choose to be subordinated by an external force. However, a subject relies on this subordination to keep control over their life and give them self identity. The self identity comes from an external power who preaches a subject’s worth until it has been internalized and the subject projects the image. Butler references Althusser who argues that the subordination of a subject is through verbal communication.…
In the film Ordinary People, there are three characters making up a very dysfunctional family. Conrad Jarrett, Beth Jarrett, and Calvin Jarrett all make up a family, that just recently went through a major loss of Beth and Calvin’s son and Conrad’s brother, Buck Jarrett. This film is all about how the Jarrett family is handling this death with themselves and each other. Through out this film all the family members are copping differently, whether it be through silence or violence, but they all seem to be having a problem managing their conflicts appropriately and safely. All three of the Jarrett’s seem to use silence a lot more often than violence but when they choose to use violence it’s short and sour.…