As hard as my relationship was with Thomas, I am grateful for what I learned from being with him. I learned that I am a strong and an independent person. I didn’t need him to make me feel secure and happy. According to Mendenhall (2014), intimacy dances work best when they support both people (Mendenhall, 2014b). I won’t sacrifice myself to a relationship again because the outcome will never make me happy. In the end, my relationship with Thomas was unbalanced. His letter explaining himself to me and telling me that he still loves me was a year too late. Each partner in a relationship is important and needs to bring honor to their whole selves within a relationship (Mendenhall, 2014b). In my current and future relationships, I plan on having
