ic 1- Attachment, P. 363
Attachment is a very intimate feeling. It is not something that just occurs but develops. For example, when I started dating my Boyfriend we spent every minute together. It was like we was joined at the hip. It was because during our time getting to know each other we were slowly forming an attachment to each other. Attachment can be a good or bad thing depending on the effect the attachment has on the person. For example, if my attachment to my boyfriend cause me to become depend on him for my happiness it then becomes unhealthy. however, if I can keep identity along with my values while being attached to my boyfriend it is healthy. It is essential that when we get attached to someone that we do not lose who we are in the attachment. For example, my friend father was abusive to her. So my friend decided to move far away and when she did she met her now ex husband. She became attached to him because he gave her a feeling of safety and comfort that her father did not give her. She formed attachment to him that involved giving all of herself to him. She quit school because he wanted her to. She cut off all her friends and begun to take the abuse he gave her . she allowed herself to become attached to a part of him because she longed for a father figure . It took her realizing that her attachment was unhealthy for her to break the attachment. Once we acknowledge that an attachment is not healthy we can start to break the attachment. Topic 2 -Proximity, P.337 This is a key element in the formation of an attachment and the start of how love develops. …show more content…
For example, me and my boyfriend started out as friends. we spent almost every day together because we liked each other personality. We shared this proximity that allowed us to let our barrier down and really start to develop genuine affection for one another. Proximity is a very intimate element needed to achieve any level of love to form we need that closeness to5z form relationships. The proximity can also be dangerous because proximity can confuse a person It can produce feelings that might not be reality. For example, I was close with one of my old classmates and we studied together and we even hung out outside of class as well. However, when the semester ended so did our relationship and I was crushed. I felt like I had made a friendship for life but the reality was that we were always in proximity of each other that I developed false view of our friendship. Looking back at it I allowed myself to conceive a false idea that we were more than classmates. Therefore, proximity is dangerous because it can cause confusion of ideas and feelings that can conflict the person. It can lead the person to down a dangerous road. Topic 3-Deattachment process,P.372 The detachment process is one of the most hardest things any person can do because it takes a lot of mental preparation to do it. It is hard to attach yourself from a person you grown accustom to . it is even harder if that attachment has had years to grow and mature. When you are attached to person for an extended amount of time your identity becomes joined in with theirs and it becomes hard to separate the two. My boyfriend’s brother is getting divorced from him wife and right now he is searching for a life without her. He is looking f,or his own identity that does not include her. All he knew for 12 years was being a husband and having to detach himself from that tittle is not easy for him. It is not easy for any one. Therefore many people stay in bad relationships because it is easier to stay then to actually go through process of detaching yourself from the person. I remember countless number of my friends telling me that they were with their boyfriend because they did not want to start over with some body else. This is essentially means they already have it set in their mind that detaching themselves from their partners is too hard to do and the reality is they will not. Topic 4 – Self Disclosure ,P.366 For a relationship to work I believe that a person
Attachment is a very intimate feeling. It is not something that just occurs but develops. For example, when I started dating my Boyfriend we spent every minute together. It was like we was joined at the hip. It was because during our time getting to know each other we were slowly forming an attachment to each other. Attachment can be a good or bad thing depending on the effect the attachment has on the person. For example, if my attachment to my boyfriend cause me to become depend on him for my happiness it then becomes unhealthy. however, if I can keep identity along with my values while being attached to my boyfriend it is healthy. It is essential that when we get attached to someone that we do not lose who we are in the attachment. For example, my friend father was abusive to her. So my friend decided to move far away and when she did she met her now ex husband. She became attached to him because he gave her a feeling of safety and comfort that her father did not give her. She formed attachment to him that involved giving all of herself to him. She quit school because he wanted her to. She cut off all her friends and begun to take the abuse he gave her . she allowed herself to become attached to a part of him because she longed for a father figure . It took her realizing that her attachment was unhealthy for her to break the attachment. Once we acknowledge that an attachment is not healthy we can start to break the attachment. Topic 2 -Proximity, P.337 This is a key element in the formation of an attachment and the start of how love develops. …show more content…
For example, me and my boyfriend started out as friends. we spent almost every day together because we liked each other personality. We shared this proximity that allowed us to let our barrier down and really start to develop genuine affection for one another. Proximity is a very intimate element needed to achieve any level of love to form we need that closeness to5z form relationships. The proximity can also be dangerous because proximity can confuse a person It can produce feelings that might not be reality. For example, I was close with one of my old classmates and we studied together and we even hung out outside of class as well. However, when the semester ended so did our relationship and I was crushed. I felt like I had made a friendship for life but the reality was that we were always in proximity of each other that I developed false view of our friendship. Looking back at it I allowed myself to conceive a false idea that we were more than classmates. Therefore, proximity is dangerous because it can cause confusion of ideas and feelings that can conflict the person. It can lead the person to down a dangerous road. Topic 3-Deattachment process,P.372 The detachment process is one of the most hardest things any person can do because it takes a lot of mental preparation to do it. It is hard to attach yourself from a person you grown accustom to . it is even harder if that attachment has had years to grow and mature. When you are attached to person for an extended amount of time your identity becomes joined in with theirs and it becomes hard to separate the two. My boyfriend’s brother is getting divorced from him wife and right now he is searching for a life without her. He is looking f,or his own identity that does not include her. All he knew for 12 years was being a husband and having to detach himself from that tittle is not easy for him. It is not easy for any one. Therefore many people stay in bad relationships because it is easier to stay then to actually go through process of detaching yourself from the person. I remember countless number of my friends telling me that they were with their boyfriend because they did not want to start over with some body else. This is essentially means they already have it set in their mind that detaching themselves from their partners is too hard to do and the reality is they will not. Topic 4 – Self Disclosure ,P.366 For a relationship to work I believe that a person