Society has a knack for compartmentalizing everything, including perceptions of people. For example, All Asians are smart; all African Americans are all “hood”, and all white people are either rich or “redneck.” Often these stereotypes can have a negative effect SUCH AS racial tensions, but The major stereotype that affects most of modern relationships is the stereotypes between men and women. Women state that “they are always right”, and “All men act like children”, while men state that “Taking care of the household is a woman’s job.” I not only do I want to talk about stereotypes, but I also want to address how these stereotypes are wrong and how they destroy most relationships.
MANY OF YOU might be in a relationship at the moment, so you know that it is not uncommon for you and your spouse, or significant other, to get into a fight. I am sure every man has heard at one point or another the phrase, “Women are always right.” Of course this statement is not true, but still can make men feel devalued. My father himself was a major activist in proving my mother wrong, which brought up a lot of conflict into the relationship. The reason he did this, was because this stereotype is constantly planted into our society. If he did not prove my mother could be wrong, then he felt as if he was admitting that this stereotype is true and that his opinion meant absolutely nothing. In this communication aspect, women need to step up. The truth is that no one is “always right.” After all, my mother also feels the need to point out every time my father is wrong. To grow past this misunderstood stereotype, we need to accept both parties’ opinions as valuable. A similar statement to “women are always right” is that “All men act like children”, which is also a false stereotype. I know we have all seen the posts on Facebook of men doing stupid things, but in all honesty it’s untrue to say that all men act like small toddlers. We, once again, see the crushing of the male opinion. Going back to another dad story, my father is a giant nerd who loves Harry Potter and the movie Star Wars, followed by any other kind of geeky thing you can think of. Sometimes this seriously can make you question if he is a two-hundred and thirty-five pound toddler. My dad is also ex-military, and manages his own warehouse. If anyone had seen him in those jobs, they would absolutely have no idea that when he would come home he would watch harry potter with my siblings and me, while waving his wand exclaiming “Expeliarmus!” Despite having a childish personality at points, my father was a fully functioning adult who had just as much authority as my mother, who is an office manager. Due to this, my mother would never dare call my father “childish” because in reality he was not. If we continue to write off male opinions in relationships, by considering them childish, then in …show more content…
Now women are moving up through the work force with critical pace. The claim that “a woman’s job is solely to take care of the children”: claims that in the man’s eye, she is inferior to him. In the vital communication between partners, this is very dangerous statement. Similar to a man’s feeling of inferiority, women can grow spiteful. I still remember when I was in high school dating a silly 16 year old boy. Whenever we were in an argument, he would snap and say that I should just “shut up, and take up my job of making sandwiches and feeding kids.” Although he did not mean this literally, it was a jab at my equality in the relationship; a primitive reminder that I would be a “lesser” opinion in the relationship. In reality, I was a vibrant student who had better grades than him, and was even a grade level ahead of him after he failed twice. But because he knew his jab would work, it always affected me terribly. Often I would feel inferior and unworthy of speaking up. Of course, because of this stereotype and maybe some bigoted opinion on his side, we broke up. If the removal of these stereotypes is not addressed, they can heavily undermine any work in a
MANY OF YOU might be in a relationship at the moment, so you know that it is not uncommon for you and your spouse, or significant other, to get into a fight. I am sure every man has heard at one point or another the phrase, “Women are always right.” Of course this statement is not true, but still can make men feel devalued. My father himself was a major activist in proving my mother wrong, which brought up a lot of conflict into the relationship. The reason he did this, was because this stereotype is constantly planted into our society. If he did not prove my mother could be wrong, then he felt as if he was admitting that this stereotype is true and that his opinion meant absolutely nothing. In this communication aspect, women need to step up. The truth is that no one is “always right.” After all, my mother also feels the need to point out every time my father is wrong. To grow past this misunderstood stereotype, we need to accept both parties’ opinions as valuable. A similar statement to “women are always right” is that “All men act like children”, which is also a false stereotype. I know we have all seen the posts on Facebook of men doing stupid things, but in all honesty it’s untrue to say that all men act like small toddlers. We, once again, see the crushing of the male opinion. Going back to another dad story, my father is a giant nerd who loves Harry Potter and the movie Star Wars, followed by any other kind of geeky thing you can think of. Sometimes this seriously can make you question if he is a two-hundred and thirty-five pound toddler. My dad is also ex-military, and manages his own warehouse. If anyone had seen him in those jobs, they would absolutely have no idea that when he would come home he would watch harry potter with my siblings and me, while waving his wand exclaiming “Expeliarmus!” Despite having a childish personality at points, my father was a fully functioning adult who had just as much authority as my mother, who is an office manager. Due to this, my mother would never dare call my father “childish” because in reality he was not. If we continue to write off male opinions in relationships, by considering them childish, then in …show more content…
Now women are moving up through the work force with critical pace. The claim that “a woman’s job is solely to take care of the children”: claims that in the man’s eye, she is inferior to him. In the vital communication between partners, this is very dangerous statement. Similar to a man’s feeling of inferiority, women can grow spiteful. I still remember when I was in high school dating a silly 16 year old boy. Whenever we were in an argument, he would snap and say that I should just “shut up, and take up my job of making sandwiches and feeding kids.” Although he did not mean this literally, it was a jab at my equality in the relationship; a primitive reminder that I would be a “lesser” opinion in the relationship. In reality, I was a vibrant student who had better grades than him, and was even a grade level ahead of him after he failed twice. But because he knew his jab would work, it always affected me terribly. Often I would feel inferior and unworthy of speaking up. Of course, because of this stereotype and maybe some bigoted opinion on his side, we broke up. If the removal of these stereotypes is not addressed, they can heavily undermine any work in a