My mom and I had raced to Kansas City from our house upon receiving a call from my grandma, saying that my great grandma was probably going to pass soon. This moment in time, my great grandmother was laying in the hospital bed with a weakening heart beat and a sluggish look on her face. I was standing at the foot of the bed with my mom to her side holding her hand. Her son, my grandfather, was at her other side. Along with his sister and my grandma. We all knew that she was about to pass, but she kept holding on. The iconic moment within this scene was when she said, “It will nice to see everyone soon at Christmas”, christmas being about a month away. All of the adults in the room agreed and kept saying how nice it will be. Then my mom,
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Since she was a person that I only saw on special occasions and would give the farewell hug, my relationship was not the strongest as compared to my grandpa’s relationship with her, her being his mother. She was a woman that I have seen pictures of me with her, but I can not really remember these memories because of my young age. Although the relationship is not that strong, there is still evidence of a close bond between the two individuals, according to the academic journal “Death Anxiety and Personal Growth in Adolescents Experiencing the Death of a Grandparent.” This article is by Carla Ens and John B. Bond jr. Experiencing a loved one pass is a hard thing for a child who is still in a developmental period in their life. According to Ens, some common things that can occur in a child after death of a loved one is “shock, depression, fear, loneliness, anger, difficulty sleeping, changes in study habits, feelings of emptiness, disbelief, sense of hopelessness, and guilt as well as feelings of vulnerability, fear of intimacy, and an excessive concern for others.” The main thing that arises in adolescents according to Ens is death anxiety. Moreover, Ens explains that this anxiety and grief can be influenced by unmeasured variables such as their philosophies regarding life and death, levels of religious belief, and social …show more content…
The child of an individual that passes generally takes the death the hardest. As they are the one that lived with this person for at least eighteen years of their life. They knew this person every day and was around them much more than a grandchild, or myself the great grandchild. Another academic journal gives great insight on the age and gender difference in coping with death titled, “Parents’ Death and Adults Well-being: Gender, Age, and Adaptation to Filial Bereavement”, by Thomas Leopold and Clemens Lechner. These two individuals conducted experiments on how different ages and genders deal with death differently. They found that the most prominent moderator was gender. According to Leopold, “ studies have indicated that the death of a mother is more traumatic than the death of a father.” The main reason for this, according to Leopold is that there is a special quality of attachment bonds between a mother and her child, she has always been the primary caretaker for the child, in most cases. Since the baby develops in her womb that connection will always be greater, and the mother was the first one to provide food and love for the
Since she was a person that I only saw on special occasions and would give the farewell hug, my relationship was not the strongest as compared to my grandpa’s relationship with her, her being his mother. She was a woman that I have seen pictures of me with her, but I can not really remember these memories because of my young age. Although the relationship is not that strong, there is still evidence of a close bond between the two individuals, according to the academic journal “Death Anxiety and Personal Growth in Adolescents Experiencing the Death of a Grandparent.” This article is by Carla Ens and John B. Bond jr. Experiencing a loved one pass is a hard thing for a child who is still in a developmental period in their life. According to Ens, some common things that can occur in a child after death of a loved one is “shock, depression, fear, loneliness, anger, difficulty sleeping, changes in study habits, feelings of emptiness, disbelief, sense of hopelessness, and guilt as well as feelings of vulnerability, fear of intimacy, and an excessive concern for others.” The main thing that arises in adolescents according to Ens is death anxiety. Moreover, Ens explains that this anxiety and grief can be influenced by unmeasured variables such as their philosophies regarding life and death, levels of religious belief, and social …show more content…
The child of an individual that passes generally takes the death the hardest. As they are the one that lived with this person for at least eighteen years of their life. They knew this person every day and was around them much more than a grandchild, or myself the great grandchild. Another academic journal gives great insight on the age and gender difference in coping with death titled, “Parents’ Death and Adults Well-being: Gender, Age, and Adaptation to Filial Bereavement”, by Thomas Leopold and Clemens Lechner. These two individuals conducted experiments on how different ages and genders deal with death differently. They found that the most prominent moderator was gender. According to Leopold, “ studies have indicated that the death of a mother is more traumatic than the death of a father.” The main reason for this, according to Leopold is that there is a special quality of attachment bonds between a mother and her child, she has always been the primary caretaker for the child, in most cases. Since the baby develops in her womb that connection will always be greater, and the mother was the first one to provide food and love for the