This article is about Jane Shilling a single mother to a 21 year old young man. Shilling spends her time thinking about her time with parental rearing and how it affected her son. The role of Shillings mother and grandparents in shaping her views of parenting as a single mother is considered. The history of the publication of books offering advice to parents is talked about. The books "How Children Succeed" by Paul Tough and "Far from the Tree" by Andrew Solomon are discussed, their focus on identity and character as elements of child development. Shilling also has an argument about why parents should not treat their children like one of their friends, it makes the child more likely to be obedient and not successful. Another main argument
