Hold Me Tight Book Analysis

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In what way are the book 's topics [as you identified them] relevant to this course? “Hold me Tight” is a book written by Dr. Sue Johnson, who discusses the true understanding of love and how to repair it when people lose connection. Johnson separates the book into three parts that discusses more in depth about the discoveries she makes about love through her research and studies. Both the book and the course discusses , what love truly is and how attachment is our primary motivation in life. That when we become disconnected from our partner, tension in the relationship builds up and increases the risk of married couples to divorce. Both the course and in the book discusses the different types of “damaging patterns” that lead to downfall …show more content…
Base on her research it is calculated that loneliness raises blood pressure to an extend that both a heart attack and a stroke are doubled. For women who have constant arguments with their partner their stress hormones elevates higher than those with a happy marriage. Any sort of distress in the relationship affects our immune and hormonal system and surprisingly enough our ability to heal. According to the authors research, there was a study done on womens who volunteered and used a vacuum bump to cause small blisters in their hands and had them to argue with their partner. The results were stunning, they discover the more they argue the longer it took for the wounds to heal. I also believe that this cycle will continue generations after generations children are not provided with a good role model. In this case children are at risk as well of getting damage and would learn from the parents through modeling how to solve their problems and may react the same way with their partner as an …show more content…
This conversations are like steps that guides couples especially those in a marriage to form an emotional attachment with each other in order to be satisfied with their relationship. The first step is called “Recognizing the Demon Dialogues”, in which it both partners make the effort to identify the roots of their problems by allowing them to recognize the negative remarks from each other. The second step is called “Find the Raw Spots”, were couples learn and share their own raw spot that makes them feel “emotionally deprived or deserted.” It also were both can trace back to their history that makes them vulnerable in their current relationship. “Revisiting a Rocky Moment” is the third step where couples can create this emotional balance and “platform” by providing each other with “emotional safety” The fourth step is called “Hold me Tight”, this refers to a type of conversation were they both become emotionally responsive and engage with each other in order to bond together. In the fifth step, “Forgiving Injuries” both learn how to forgive and how to offer it in order to connect and strengthen the bond. In the sixth step “Bonding Though Sex and Touch”, couples learn to bond together through a sense of passion in order to create this deeper emotional connection with each other. Last but not least “ Keeping your Love Alive” is the

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