Consequences Of Abandonment Style

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Each emotional style has his own consequences and effects. Today I am going to talk about Abandonment style. It is very important to know the concept of this emotional style. Abandonment is the legal term describing the failure of a non-custodial parent to provide support, it is more likely negative feelings and could affect very serious. In common use, abandonment refers to the desertion of a child by a parent. There are many reasons why the child may feel abandoned without sufficient care-giving from his/her parents. One of those is children of divorce where one parent is seldom or never a part of the child’s life. In my case it is Divorce. I am from a family where only my mom has raised me and thought me everything she has known. I am very proud of my mom because …show more content…
Divorce affects to child especially to teenagers very negatively. I remember when I was thirteen, I started to think about consequences of divorce. My emotions, especially ones about my dad was buried so deep in me that whenever I took time to think about my situation, I broke down and wanted to speak up. I wanted to go to his house and tell him that how bad he was, but instead I would think about my mom and support her during the hard periods. In addition, I noticed that there are different way of thinking about divorce and his consequences. For example, boys more likely are thought to be tougher and therefore if they want to take out their anger, they just hurt through violence or just do work out. On the other hand, girls are more sensitive, they usually express their anger or fear through cries. In my case I hide everything inside of me. Even it’s been 15 years sine my parents are divorced, I still have that emotion (Abandonment) on me. For instance, to be abandonment on something such as relationship. The divorce impact me to have a abandonment emotional

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