Generally the foster child will feel the loss of not being raised by their birth family. The main goal of the state agencies is to keep the child with his/her birth parents, so they work very hard for reunification. During this time the child is going through a myriad of emotional feelings. He/she knows there is a possibility of going back to the birth family, but at the same time he/she is being prepared for an alternative plan. If reunification is not possible, then the child needs to understand that the next step is adoption. It is at this time that the child will go through a grieving process for the loss of the parenting relationship, which will remain with the child even after they are adopted (Singer, Krebs 2008). This loss is profound and usually the child will not be able to articulate his/her feelings, carrying the burden of this emotion by him/herself. There are also many cases were the foster child is moved from foster home to foster home. When this happens, the child loses not only the foster parents, but also any friends, teachers, and possibly whatever possessions they might have. In general children in foster care and subsequently adopted children have less security attachment than non-adopted children and the older a child is at placement, the more at risk these children are. Another factor to consider is the trauma the child might have experienced before he/she was removed from their birth home. This trauma could be the result of neglect, physical, sexual and/or emotional abuse as well as the witnessing of violence in the household. All of these things contribute to children feeling like they have lost control over their life which in turn decreases their ability to trust others and can lead to feelings of low self-esteem, incompetence, and feeling unsafe. If the child is unable to communicate his/her need for
Generally the foster child will feel the loss of not being raised by their birth family. The main goal of the state agencies is to keep the child with his/her birth parents, so they work very hard for reunification. During this time the child is going through a myriad of emotional feelings. He/she knows there is a possibility of going back to the birth family, but at the same time he/she is being prepared for an alternative plan. If reunification is not possible, then the child needs to understand that the next step is adoption. It is at this time that the child will go through a grieving process for the loss of the parenting relationship, which will remain with the child even after they are adopted (Singer, Krebs 2008). This loss is profound and usually the child will not be able to articulate his/her feelings, carrying the burden of this emotion by him/herself. There are also many cases were the foster child is moved from foster home to foster home. When this happens, the child loses not only the foster parents, but also any friends, teachers, and possibly whatever possessions they might have. In general children in foster care and subsequently adopted children have less security attachment than non-adopted children and the older a child is at placement, the more at risk these children are. Another factor to consider is the trauma the child might have experienced before he/she was removed from their birth home. This trauma could be the result of neglect, physical, sexual and/or emotional abuse as well as the witnessing of violence in the household. All of these things contribute to children feeling like they have lost control over their life which in turn decreases their ability to trust others and can lead to feelings of low self-esteem, incompetence, and feeling unsafe. If the child is unable to communicate his/her need for