Chapter five focuses ons of divorce on children.
We learned at class today that there is a difference between children in divorced and no divorced families. Kids whose parents are divorced have more behavioral, emotional, health and academic problems. We also learned that difference between them is not too big and it is not permanent. (Lecture 10/13) That was surprising to me because I always think it would be bigger and permanent but I am happy to see kids are not affected that much from their parents’ divorce.
Another thing that surprised me is the fact divorce can have a strong effects on infants too. I always thought it would be easiest for infants to handle the divorce since they do not communicate and mostly unaware of the things around …show more content…
I have an example to share for that. I have a very close relative. When I met her she had a six years old daughter and she hated her husband but did not wanted to divorce because she wanted her daughter to grow up with both parent. She was planning to divorce after her daughter grow up a little. So she did divorce her husband when her daughter was 16 years old. Her daughter was very successful academically and very well behaved before the divorce and I was sorry to see her turn into very opposite way and become a troubled young lady. Seeing that made me sure that divorcing is very harmful for especially teenagers. “When parents’ divorce especially divorce is unexpected adolescents developing identity can be thrown into chaos and their self-confidence maybe undermined” (117). And because their personality is not mature they can easily get in trouble in different ways. …show more content…
After the divorce overstressed parents may not be very successful at parenting and working on being a good parent is very important to help kids to adjust to their parents’ divorce. Parents should continue to take care of their kids just the way it used to be before the divorce. They have to make sure kids have a schedule set up to go to bed and wake up, do their homework, eat well, have supervision at all the time, and have a well-balanced life style. Contact with dad is also very important for children to adjust. In chapter 6 “what causes children’s problems” it was mentioned that lack of contact with dad was one of the biggest problem. Then we can conclude that contact with dad is very important for children and it helps children to adjust better. The quality of the contact is also important. “What children need most from their father is meaningful contact with an emotionally involved parent” (C&B 163) I do not think it would make so much difference if father bring kids home and leave them alone, not communicate with them, not do anything special with
We learned at class today that there is a difference between children in divorced and no divorced families. Kids whose parents are divorced have more behavioral, emotional, health and academic problems. We also learned that difference between them is not too big and it is not permanent. (Lecture 10/13) That was surprising to me because I always think it would be bigger and permanent but I am happy to see kids are not affected that much from their parents’ divorce.
Another thing that surprised me is the fact divorce can have a strong effects on infants too. I always thought it would be easiest for infants to handle the divorce since they do not communicate and mostly unaware of the things around …show more content…
I have an example to share for that. I have a very close relative. When I met her she had a six years old daughter and she hated her husband but did not wanted to divorce because she wanted her daughter to grow up with both parent. She was planning to divorce after her daughter grow up a little. So she did divorce her husband when her daughter was 16 years old. Her daughter was very successful academically and very well behaved before the divorce and I was sorry to see her turn into very opposite way and become a troubled young lady. Seeing that made me sure that divorcing is very harmful for especially teenagers. “When parents’ divorce especially divorce is unexpected adolescents developing identity can be thrown into chaos and their self-confidence maybe undermined” (117). And because their personality is not mature they can easily get in trouble in different ways. …show more content…
After the divorce overstressed parents may not be very successful at parenting and working on being a good parent is very important to help kids to adjust to their parents’ divorce. Parents should continue to take care of their kids just the way it used to be before the divorce. They have to make sure kids have a schedule set up to go to bed and wake up, do their homework, eat well, have supervision at all the time, and have a well-balanced life style. Contact with dad is also very important for children to adjust. In chapter 6 “what causes children’s problems” it was mentioned that lack of contact with dad was one of the biggest problem. Then we can conclude that contact with dad is very important for children and it helps children to adjust better. The quality of the contact is also important. “What children need most from their father is meaningful contact with an emotionally involved parent” (C&B 163) I do not think it would make so much difference if father bring kids home and leave them alone, not communicate with them, not do anything special with