It is not difficult to figure out that the modern image of a father is evolving and pointing to a more compassionate figure. Before, the fatherly figure was merely boiled down to him being the breadwinner and the mother was considered the sole caretaker of the children 's welfare. The fatherhood role in the old days was contradicting because the fathers in the 1800s and 1900s era were driven by masculinity. They let the masculine attribute controlled the idea of what it is to be a good father. The fathers from those periods of time were more protective and controlling towards their wife and daughters. Fatherhood back then was built on more masculinity, a father had to be the provider, decision maker and powerful to receive …show more content…
They decide who their daughters are going to married, what her lifestyle. Their daughter didn’t really have any say in the life decision because the fathers already made it for them. That’s probably some of the daughter have resentment towards their fathers in the future. According to Hallet, she says “She conjectures that the valuation by men of daughters and of kin on the female side may be caused by the uncertainty of paternity (pp. 320ff.). She gets round the obvious problem that men should have been reluctant to accept their wives ' children as their own: '... we might hypothesize that, once an elite Roman male had acknowledged paternity of a daughter, he might feel more secure about his consanguinity with her children than he might about that with those of a similarly acknowledged son.”(Hallet, JSOR) This shows how Hallet see the fathers early years protective and controlling towards their daughters. They would rather give their sons more freedom than their daughters. Not only were the fathers of the 1800s controlling towards their daughter but them also controlling towards to wife or spouse. In “My Last Duchess”, the main character showed a more controlling and jealously side toward his wife while talking about the painting. “My gift of a nine-hundred-years-old name/ With anybody’s gift. Who’d stoop to blame/ This sort of trifling? Even had …show more content…
The way they communicated with their families was in an aggressive tone, not calm relaxing tone. It was “do it because I told you too” and if you didn’t do what they asked, they would be consequences It was either do this or doing that but their way was the best way to them and they will get their way through aggression. Compared the modern day fatherhood were father are not more understand and more settle while talking to their families. Some of the aggressive traits in men still carry on till this day because men like to feel in charge. The early year fathers would curse their wives and cursed out their just because the feel like doing so. In “The Colonel”, the speaker describe that the colonel as aggressive father who fell like he was always right. “The colonel told it to shut up, and pushed himself from the table. My friend said to me with his eyes: say nothing. The colonel returned with a sack used to bring groceries home. He spilled many human ears on the table. They were like dried peach halves. There is no other way to say this. He took one of them in his hands, shook it in our faces, dropped it into a water glass. It came alive there. I am tired of fooling around he said. As for the rights of anyone, tell your people they can go fuck them- selves.(Forche)” This shows how the fathers of past years had some type of aggressive trait toward their loved