Toxic Relationship And How It Affects One's Life

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You wake up at the age of seven, scared because of all the yelling and throwing of plates, keys or even lamps at five thirty am before school. The only thing you can do is stay in bed or hide in the closet and just wait until dad leaves for work so all the yelling can stop. When he leaves, now you have to deal with mom crying in the bathroom alone for hours until it's time to take you to school. Before she drops you off, she turns around and tells you, “Whatever happens at home stays at home. Don't tell anyone our business.” A toxic relationship can become the only relationship that people are comfortable with. If a person has become accustomed to arguments and constant crying, when they get into a different type of relationship, they do not …show more content…
If one’s parents engage in constant arguments, this adds worry to a child’s life-worry about whether his or her parent will be okay and happy at the end of the argument. The child just wants all the yelling and fighting to stop. In the song “Family Portrait” by American songwriter and singer P!nk, she describes the difficulties she faced growing up with constant arguments between her parents. Her lyrics emphasize that the arguing is “tearin me down” and she does not want love to destroy her like it did her family. One grows up either replicating his or her parents relationship because that is what he or she know best, or trying to be in a relationship where arguments do not happen. Children worry that all relationships will end up like their parents, and to avoid this the child keeps their feelings to themselves. They worry that if they speak what they feel it’ll turn into an argument and replicate their parents’ relationship. This hesitation on expressing oneself in a relationship can be traced back to childhood experiences, such as being told to hide a particular …show more content…
When looking at a person, one can’t automatically assume all the troubles that person has gone through and all the suffering he or she has experienced. Although children may appear to be happy and cheerful at all times, one doesn’t know what a child is going through at home. Whether it be divorce, poverty, domestic violence, etc, the only thing that holds a child together mentally is their innocence, and their parents’ words that everything will be okay. For example, when children witness their parents arguing and yelling, it scares them into thinking their parents will separate, leaving them with only one parent at home. When this happens, a child may cry. The parent will tell the child to stop crying and to be strong. This makes one believe that crying and displaying the emotion of sadness is wrong. One starts to believe that crying is a sign of weakness and one has to be strong at all times. In the article “Emotions 101: How to Reveal and Heal What You Feel” (2013) the author writes main reason adults have a hard time dealing with their feelings is because of what they may have experienced in their childhood. By becoming comfortable with one’s own personal feelings, expressing himself to another person would be

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