In the book An-Mei and Rose teach us the lesson that Sometimes the best decisions are the ones we didn't plan on making. An-mei and Rose are very different women, An-mei has a set mind and she tells Rose in one of their first vignettes that Rose must be obedient to her mother because she will be the one to guide her later on. Rose later on says that, “ If I didn't listen to her …show more content…
She did something without thinking without planning and it end up being the best decision she could. In the vignette it says that Rose was in the house with Ted her husband and they began to have a conversation about what she was going to have when they got a divorce she said one thing and that thing was something that tore from her lips without even her being sure she was going to say it and it made the biggest impact that she's had. “ And the answer, the one that was important above everything else, ran through my body and fell from my lips: ‘You can't just pull me out of your life and throw me away.’ I saw what I wanted: his eyes, confused, then scared. He was hulihudu. The power of my words was that strong.”.(Tan 196) This was the point when we're introduced to this theme, maybe you don't HAVE to be conscious of what you're going to do. Maybe just the action is what can make the strongest best decisions of our life. It's proven that when we think about something too hard it tends to make us nervous and ends up changing us or we don't do it to the fullest so maybe Rose not planning on what she was going to say to Ted intern made her know ALL that she was going to