I got engage with my father's cousin when I was late fourteen or early fifteen and I broke up the engagement two years back, after seven or eight year of engagement. In the first year of engagement I was feeling that something is wrong and it took two years to recognize that everything was illusion, not love. It took two years to convince myself to continue, no matter what I will try to feel that love but again it was illusion. It took two year to fight with myself and everything to break up and finally I did and finally I ended that illusion that was fighting for many years and I will I am free. To makes it more clear that why I think love is illusion, because no one forced me to accept the engagement. I was …show more content…
Now I believe that everything has two sides or two faces that one is face is usually invisible or we cannot recognize that. Truth can be truth or it can be illusion. Love can be love and it can be illusion but usually see one side and the illusion side takes time to recognize or even accept that it is illusion. Even the pain people feel in their heart can have different sides. Before break up, I was in pain that could not share that pain with anyone. I was broken inside no one could see that broken side of me. They were thinking I am doing fine because I used to never complain about anything or I never showed them that I am not ok. That experience teaches me that life is full of illusion and I should be ready to recognize them day by …show more content…
Love gives rise to desires and romantic yearning for beloved but it is the consequences of love not love itself. And naturalist often reduce love as sexual desires. And the most common mistake is to confuse love with good feelings. In an article explains that there should be confusion between being in love with love and the act of love. For example, when someone says I love berry it means she or he has a good feeling at the time of eating berry. Someone loves sunset because watching the sunset is beautiful and it give good feeling. In other word, people love that feeling that experience at the time of watching sunset, it is not sunset they love. It means we do not fall in love, we choose to fall in love and we choose to love. I choose to love someone because she or he is beautiful. It means that I perceive other beautiful and I decide to love others. Like this, if I can decide to love someone, I can decide to not love them. And we decide to love something because of some qualities or characteristics. I love someone because I feel secure beside them and I give this value for the people according to this feeling f secure. If I do not feel secure anymore I will not give that value for them and so I will not love them. It seems a kind of dealing. I expect someone to love in order I love them. I expect them to give me some feeling that I love them. It means I expect something in exchange of love that I have for them. It means