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Personal vs. Power Situations—the Issue of “Being-Liked”
There are two types of rules of behavior that we learn: personal rules of behavior and business/power rules of behavior. Personal rules of behavior are rules that we learn very early—children are already taught these rules when they turn two. The purpose of these rules is to form relationships (family, friends, marriage, etc.). Personal rules are reinforced in school, church, at home, and in every aspect of life, and they incorporate sharing, cooperation, respect, intimacy, trust, empathy, and being liked. At an early age, children do not know that there is another set of behavior: power rules of behavior. This type of rules of behavior focuses