Adults can help in the manner we deal and speak with them. You can see children who are learning resilience when they have a minor accident - some mothers may say 'Never mind, let's give it a magic rub/kiss better' and they run off again, some rub their own leg as an adult asks them if they are alright, 'Yes' they say and run off with their friends.
Some mothers rush over and make a fuss, the child responds by howling even if they only brushed against a bush, and this often becomes the learned behaviour. Each time the child howls, the mother runs over - it doesn't have to be something 'big' - but the child is totally dependent on its parent. The adult in this case is not doing their child any good by being overly attentive - their child is not building up independence or resilience.
Children who are helped to build up good resilience are able to cope with change much better - transitions - going up to school, becoming more independent in seeing to their own needs. They feel good within their own skin - and feel more able to attempt