For example, men and women use language differently. Gray notes that misinterpreting each other is easy when men and women have the same words, but with different meanings (334). For example, women say things like this; “We never go out”. Men respond like this;” That’s not true. We went out last week”. Another common complaints are “The house is always a mess” women say. Men respond like this “It’s not always a mess” (335). You can see how a ‘’literal” translation of a woman’s words could easily mislead a man who is used to using speech as a means of conveying only facts and information. The fact is men and women are completely different in the way of talk, dress, and feelings. We will never be the same as men. That is why is important to realize the differences between each other.
Deborah Tannen and John Gray understood that men and women misunderstand one another. In their articles, they write about the differences between men and women, and how to minimize arguments. Good communication, respecting one another, and realizing their differences are ways to minimize conflicts. Also, it’s the key to a long term