Saying you would like to die at home is not enough information for planning. A plan takes discussion and preparation. A plan requires answers to questions. Where do you want to live when you are no longer independent? What medical, life-saving interventions do you want? Who will make sure your plan is implemented and serve as your personal advocate? Many assume the natural choice for this job is a spouse or child. In reality, the best person might be someone who has the time, lives close, and can deal with the pressures of rapidly changing health situations.
When possible, a person needs to determine who will give them the final last words, not necessarily a spiritual leader. Once selected, then share the things you are worried about before you let go. Our mother requested that we take care of our older, disabled brother – then she felt okay to let