Unlike in some developing countries, there is no strong gender preference for male or female offspring in !Kung society. When Nisa’s mother gave birth to Nisa’s little brother, she told Nisa that she would kill him because she thought Nisa was too small and to young to be weaned. When Nisa ran back to the village to tell her aunt, her aunt said, “This Chuko, she’s certainly a bad one to be talking like that… No matter what it is — boy or girl — she should keep [the baby]” (Shostak 55). Even though Chuko’s proposed reason for infanticide was not gender-based, her sister’s attitude reflects that the !Kung valued both genders, and disapproved of gender-based infanticide. As female children grew up they learned to gather food, and as adults, they provided most of the subsistence for themselves and their families, gathering fifteen to thirty pounds of vegetables 2-3 times per week (Shostak 67). The knowledge of how to gather food gave !Kung women economic independence. It also gave them more value in society; the men did not always come back with meats after every hunt, so the !Kung often relied on the women’s contributions in order to nourish the people of their village. !Kung women often had arranged marriages when they were still in their early teenage years, but they did not have to stay in these marriages. A wife could run away or declare that she would commit suicide if she stayed in the relationship. Another woman would also lay in the couple’s hut with them to chaperone them and protect the young wife. The family of the wife was always there and could step in to support her, protect her and defend her from unfair treatment or abuse. In Nisa’s first marriage, her chaperone, a woman named Nukha, had sexual relations with Nisa’s husband while Nisa was trying to sleep right next to them. When Nisa told her parents about this,
Unlike in some developing countries, there is no strong gender preference for male or female offspring in !Kung society. When Nisa’s mother gave birth to Nisa’s little brother, she told Nisa that she would kill him because she thought Nisa was too small and to young to be weaned. When Nisa ran back to the village to tell her aunt, her aunt said, “This Chuko, she’s certainly a bad one to be talking like that… No matter what it is — boy or girl — she should keep [the baby]” (Shostak 55). Even though Chuko’s proposed reason for infanticide was not gender-based, her sister’s attitude reflects that the !Kung valued both genders, and disapproved of gender-based infanticide. As female children grew up they learned to gather food, and as adults, they provided most of the subsistence for themselves and their families, gathering fifteen to thirty pounds of vegetables 2-3 times per week (Shostak 67). The knowledge of how to gather food gave !Kung women economic independence. It also gave them more value in society; the men did not always come back with meats after every hunt, so the !Kung often relied on the women’s contributions in order to nourish the people of their village. !Kung women often had arranged marriages when they were still in their early teenage years, but they did not have to stay in these marriages. A wife could run away or declare that she would commit suicide if she stayed in the relationship. Another woman would also lay in the couple’s hut with them to chaperone them and protect the young wife. The family of the wife was always there and could step in to support her, protect her and defend her from unfair treatment or abuse. In Nisa’s first marriage, her chaperone, a woman named Nukha, had sexual relations with Nisa’s husband while Nisa was trying to sleep right next to them. When Nisa told her parents about this,