Love and Logic. Fay and Funk (2010) created an excellent philosophy for any teacher or parent to use with children. It allows the adult to show they are in control while still giving the student opportunities to be in control. A child is presented with two or three options when it is okay for the child to choose. The teacher may ask “Would you like to do your math facts at your desk or at the back table?” This allows the child to feel in control by choosing, but they are choosing between choices the adult is controlling. It is important to allow the child to make small choices like this as much as possible. When it comes time for a choice that they cannot make, the adult is then valid in saying “It is time to go to music class. You have made choices all morning, now I get to get make a choice for us to go to music.”
Love and Logic One-Liners. Another important technique from Love and Logic …show more content…
McGinn (2004) shares in her open letter to educators how important it is to be positive whenever correcting behavior. She suggests “using conditional “yes” responses in place of “no” responses as often as possible.” One example of this kind of response she shares is “Of course you can go use the computer—just as soon as you finish your math paper!” When stated as “You cannot use the computer until your math is done,” the student with RAD will only hear “No, you can’t.” They don’t understand that the “no” is only conditional if they do not complete their assignment. The kindergarten teacher, that was mentioned previously, has learned this is the only way to respond to her student with RAD. When she responds with a “no” response, it often sets the student into a fit of misunderstanding. No matter how hard the teacher tries to explain that the student may use the computer following the completion of the assignment, the child heard “no” to begin with and will think that is the absolutely final answer (observation,